When you get in the mode of planning ahead on your own you realize you can filter out other people’s influence and do what you need to do.
Understand that there are non-friends among you – those stealth saboteurs that try to foil your efforts. When you’ve made your decisions ahead of time, their tempting ways barely come in to play.
Start your own leadership academy with you in the driver’s seat and the solo member of your group. In this frame of mind you are the big cheese of your plan. In time others will be following you.