One Ring to Rule Them All

August 29th, 2010 No Comments Tags: , , , , , , ,

Congratulations to us, it’s our 24th wedding anniversary!! I remember when I was young my parents would tell my sisters and I that a good marriage is hard work. I would think “ya whatever”…. because my parents made it look so easy. Having reached their 55th year of marriage melding into a combination of the Seinfeld’s with a dash of the Castanza’s, they’ve kept our lives interesting as fab examples to follow…. for their generation.

With the build-up to our family wedding soon, I have been pondering what makes a modern day marriage work. So over the past weeks I have jotted down my list. What started as a David Letterman-style top 10 list has morphed into, well something much longer. It’s not for the faint of heart, that’s for sure!

I must say that my  hubby-boy is “good material” which helps!! To me he is a combination of the adventurous Indiana Jones, mixed with the kindness and integrity of Addicus Finch with a sprinkle of Jimmy Connors’ zest – with the dashing good looks of all three combined!!. Eat your heart out ladies!!

So, here is my list:

  • What you see is what you get – celebrate who your partner is and don’t expect them to turn into someone else who they are not…
  • Give and take – learn the art of compromise; you just can’t get your way all of the time
  • You don’t always need to be right
  • It’s normal to disagree……respectfully
  • Praise in public and have your “discussions” in private
  • Give each other the benefit of the doubt
  • Pick your battles and play fair
  • Non-trivial pursuit – in a world with a multitude of noise and distractions focus on what’s important
  • Build a bond as a married couple and preserve your individuality as individuals
  • Lift each other up to be the best you can be unselfishly – find joy in each other’s victories and celebrate them
  • Prioritize your priorities – always make time for each other, no matter how busy life gets
  • Find a division of labor you’re both ok with
  • Build your own MO as a couple, don’t live by someone else’s
  • Build a legacy as a team, do something to make this world a better place
  • Only expect perfection if you indeed are perfect
  • The grass is greener on your side of the street
  • Little acts of kindness mean a lot and go a long way
  • Find joy in the simple things, these will make you happiest most often no matter what circumstance you find yourself in
  • Laugh together and laugh often, after all laughter IS the best medicine

We took a nostalgic drive by the home we lived in 24 years ago. We have many fond memories. Cheers to many more to come :-)

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