Ok let’s face it, sometimes when you’re trying to do your best on your eating regime, some people just aim to block you. Whether they feel threatened or jealous, it’s imperative to find ways to manage these situations. As if you don’t have enough challenges just trying to succeed without all of this nonsense. In my new book Skinny on Slim a group of successful weight losers, fondly referred to as “The Slimtownites” weighed in with colourful commentary on how they handle these obstacles:
— Annie “Stick to Your Guns” Oakley
Yes — stick to your guns! You’re an adult and can make your own decisions. If people don’t understand why you don’t eat French fries, tell them. In the end you are the only one responsible for your health.
— Mrs. Mississippi
Deep breathes and ignore them. 1 Mississippi, 2 Mississippi…..
— Justine J. Justify
I’d rather live longer than eat that piece of cake that I didn’t plan to eat; know that you’re doing something healthy for yourself. Eventually friends and family come around; they need a period of adjustment to your healthier lifestyle just as you did. You live it everyday, they don’t. Know what works for you and don’t get sucked into defending it – just let the advice wash over you.
— Mimi Focus
Ignore them all… Who is important about all of this? YOU…think about YOU and YOU only.
— Rick O’Shea Backintheir Face
Go for it and don’t listen….SUCCEED. Family members and friends sometimes don’t like you to change because they don’t know how to deal with a skinnier version of you! Just know that you are on the right track and don’t take what they say or do personally… it’s their issue not yours!
— No Mo Rolie Polie – Now a Role Model for Others
My trainer told me to assume I’m the role model for these people. When they can’t shake my foundation they begin to respect what I do and why I do it. It’s a weird twist of human behaviour but it does truly work.
Another strategy to consider is staying under the radar. We all know a shady saboteur who can sniff out the “good-diet-doers” honing in on what we’re eating and try to dash our efforts. Cast your eyes away, because it can be good night nelly when you’re caught in their steely gaze. Write a new script and review it to be ready.
You all know someone who tries to throw you off your diet – your all admiring co-worker Sandy Sweet with candy on her desk; the consummate Betty Bun the bulimic baker at your client’s office who brings in delectable delights; the overweight Olga Overdoit friend who enjoys having you to nosh with and can’t stand the thought of your friendship shifting focus away from food. Take the time to identify who these people are and develop strategies to stay in control.
- Avoid being hungry around these people as they can sniff out your weakness if your blood sugar is low and will dive in for the kill. Have a snack.
- Practice your list of excuses ahead of time so they roll off your tongue in any situation: “I’ll bring this home and will enjoy it later … My doctor advised me to … I can’t really drink on an empty stomach because … I’m intolerant to …. My dietitian suggested I eat (x) less often …. I can’t eat this with that new medicine I’m on…”
Add to this list to use at times like these. You are seizing control when others try to take it from you.
There are numerous healthy and stealthy suggestion in Skinny on Slim. It’s also available on i-Tunes, Kobo/Chapters, Barnes & Noble, Diesel and Sony.